The following is a guest post from a very insightful friend of mine. He has recently graduated from high school, and this post with it’s beautiful literary structure and fresh earnest voice, seems to capture succinctly some of life’s lessons that he has learned and would like to share. May I present Gossip by Siddhant Dubey.
Is it a noun, or a verb, or both?
Is it futile, or can it stir oceans?
Is it a whisper, or is it a war cry?
GOSSIP. GOSSIP. GOSSIP.
It’s all we do.
It’s all we’re capable of.
It’s all that’s engineered within us.
We can’t help ourselves.
We can’t help ourselves at all.
We need to know what he did a moment ago.
We need to know what she did ten years ago.
We constantly: Need. To. Know.
It’s a joke for some – an ordeal to engage in.
It makes others take their lives.
It ‘livens’ up a conversation.
It gashes someone’s self-esteem.
It generates laughter.
It disintegrates dignity.
It’s a quick exchange of opinions and statements.
It’s a burden that will explode if we don’t pass it on.
It’s the same burden that will destroy someone’s pride and possibly their life.
It can make you cry.
It can make you scream.
It can make you regret.
It can make you scheme.
It can make you shatter.
It can make you howl.
It can make you shiver.
It can make you scowl.
THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH IT IS TO IGNORE IT. Yes?
THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH IT IS TO DISPOSE IT. Yes?
THE BEST WAY TO DEAL WITH IT IS TO GENERATE IT OR PASS IT ON. Yes?
NO. HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE WORD ‘DISGUSTING’? THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE.
Some people don’t bother – The best option to keep.
Some people falter – Stop it, you’re not that weak.
Some people dismiss – that’s the way to be.
Some people cause – You have no right to be bleak.
Thousands of people kill themselves out of depression, out of being the centerpiece of judgment, out of not living up to expectations and out of sheer morbidity caused by the comments generated on their race, gender, sexuality, and other things that serve no basis for judgment.
GOSSIP IS A WEAPON.
It must be handled with care.
Disposed off when received.
Unloaded when aimed.
Enucleated before the intention of being made.
I gossip too. But with so many people taking their lives because of not fitting in or being accepted, it sucks that I’m contributing to even a fraction of pain in this world.
This is going to sound sappy to you (it most certainly should not, though) but you have to pledge with me:
I will not judge from this day onwards – be it on the basis of race, sexuality, gender or ability. I will not engage in incessant talk about other people and most definitely will not continue a piece of hurtful information for the sake of ‘fun’, ‘fitting in’ or even under ‘peer pressure’. I will not succumb to it.
Trust me, the world will be so much better when everyone stops gossiping. But this thought and idea has to take birth by itself, inside of you. Just regarding this and stopping at that will not do.
I do not know how many of you have heard of Amanda Todd and the terrible life she suffered. But if you have time, please look it up and empathise with the fact that there are so many people like her who need help and don’t know what to do except give up entirely. All of you who say “suicide is for the weak” are shallow-hearted fools who cannot, for the love of this world, see that suicide is a terrible, terrible act that anyone can succumb to when situations and people in their lives lash back on them with hatred.
I will also take a moment to talk about body image.
Being overweight myself, I know what it’s like to be conscious of body image.
It makes you feel awkward and uneasy and terrible.
There are people around us who may seem confident and poised, but that may not always be the case.
And so that gives you no right to comment on anyone’s body image.
Bulimia is just one of the very few social and emotional issues that we come across and disregard as “gross” or “disgusting”, but we need to understand that people are driven to this because of other people’s comments and expectations and that is the most unfair thing I’ve ever come across.
No one should ever be able to dictate over someone else’s body image.
Everyone’s aim should be to get healthy. Not to get skinny or be pretty.
Lastly, to everyone who’s having problems right now, be it regarding body image or sexuality or acceptance or anything at all, please consider talking to your parents about it. They may not seem like it, but they know their stuff, and they will understand. Your close friends (trustworthy ones) are also worth confiding in. For everyone who feels like that isn’t an option, feel free to drop me a message. Because no one deserves anything like this happening to them. Don’t let this emotion of self-doubt hover over you, because that’s not going to do you any good.
– Siddhant Dubey